In today’s post I’m going to share some marriage and communication tips for deployed Soldiers. These are some suggestions you can follow to stay in touch with your husband, wife or significant other while you are deployed, so you can keep you relationship healthy and strong. While I’m not a marriage counselor, I have deployed twice, and I think my real world experience can help. Let’s get started.
# 1 Communicate Daily – No matter where you deploy, you will have access to technology. Even in combat zones, most Soldiers have internet access in the barracks! Therefore, you have NO EXCUSE not to communicate with your spouse or significant other every single day. Try to set aside a set time every day where the two of you can chat on the phone or by email, even if it’s just for a few minutes. This will give both of you something to look forward to each day.
# 2 The Call-Email-Mail Method – When I was deployed to Kosovo this is the strategy I did every day and it made a world of difference. Make a commitment to call, email and write a personalized letter to your significant other every single day. It doesn’t take much time and it will help form a strong connection between you and your spouse. I remember how much my wife enjoyed getting the letters in the mail every day. She also liked the emails and and phone calls.
# 3 Send Gifts – Gifts are a great way to connect with your spouse or significant other, and make them feel loved. They don’t have to be expensive either. You can send flowers, teddy bears, candies, jewelry, books, cosmetics, or a variety of other things. Try to send 1-2 small gifts every month. It doesn’t have to break the bank! Even the little things count. You can buy things online and have it shipped easily.
# 4 Keep a Journal – Keep a journal about your day-to-day life. You can share this with your spouse when you return home. Write about how much you miss your spouse, what you are feeling, what you are going through, etc.
# 5 Court Your Spouse – Do you remember when you were dating your spouse? Do you remember how you courted him or her an did all the little things? Now is a good time to do that again. Tell your spouse how much you love them and miss them whenever you talk. Tell them what you miss most about them. Tell them why you think they are so wonderful. Tell them you appreciate them. Show them that you love them.
# 6 SKYPE– SKYPE is your friend. I wish I would have had SKYPE when I deployed. I can’t think of a better way to stay in touch and to keep your relationship strong while you are away. SKYPE lets you see your spouse while you talk. It’s really awesome.
Being away from your spouse during a deployment is tough for both of you. It’s up to you (the deployed Soldier) to come up with a simple game plan to stay in touch on a regular basis. Frequent communication is very important. Don’t go long periods of time without talking to your spouse. Leverage technology, do the little things, and stay in touch often. It will make a big difference in your relationship.
What are your thoughts? What did you do to communicate with your spouse while deployed? What are your best marriage and communication tips for deployed Soldiers? Leave a comment below to let me know what you think.