Deployments are now a common thing in the Army National Guard. Since the September 11th Terrorist Attacks, many ARNG Soldiers have been deployed one or more times. If your spouse is currently serving in the ARNG or USAR, there’s a good chance they could get deployed in the future. In the event that happens, I want to share a few helpful things you can do to survive a deployment (as a spouse). Here are some deployment survival tips for National Guard Spouses.
#1 Accept the Fact That Your Spouse Could Get Deployed
Always keep it real with yourself. Don’t pretend that your spouse (or their unit) is untouchable. Accept the fact that they could deploy and probably will. Don’t try to fool yourself.
# 2 Develop a Game-Plan
Before your spouse deploys, develop a game-plan. Who will be in charge of the finances? Will you stay in your current residence or move back in with your parents until your spouse returns? What will you do for employment? Try to address these big issues ahead of time, so you will be prepared. If possible, draft everything up in a simple 1-2 page deployment plan and file it away in a safe place.
# 2 Don’t be Resentful
If your spouse deploys, don’t be resentful or hold it against them. In most cases, you knew this could happen, before you got married. Try to look for the positive in things. And whatever you do, don’t think your spouse is having a “vacation” on their deployment while you are stuck doing everything at home. Most deployments